Do you remember the last time you try to use force to persuade someone into believing a certain fact yet he/she didn’t? Did it turn into an argument? Was the person annoyed with you in the long run? Or it was a business that he didn’t show up a base on the way you approached him/her.
Well, you’re not the only one who has once face such a challenge. A lot of people are struggling to understand the human way of doing things. This is what my article is about to tackle read to the end to get the clearer picture.
One thing you have to not is that you must first know that the way you’re thinking is different from others. You must, therefore, try to always appreciate the effort of a fellow. The biggest mistake we often do in life is, we try to convince people by first criticising their way of doing things. We often ignore the feeling of importance every individual has. I remember on one morning when I was watching a YouTube video of an evangelist, when he started his preaching he began to condemn the actions of those who oppose his way of understanding the scriptures. With this kind of attitude, it will hard to get a convert into your church.
As a man with a knowledge in Behavioural Science and Psychology, If you want people to embrace your information and change from their old way of living or preconceived ideas on a particular subject matter, you must start by first acting as if you greatly admire what they’re doing.
From there, let your piece be a mixture of truth( your desire thoughts) and lies( their previous thoughts).
Just like transport in living organism. Movement of substances in and out of the cell does not take place at once.
For instance, diffusion of substances takes place at one corner and quickly or slowly diffuses until there is even dispersion of the said substance.
Trying to condemn the actions of some people immediately you confront them will lead to rebellion.
In the 15th century when Christianity is finding its way in Ghana, the westerners started by preaching against the norms of the society – Ghanaian culture.
As a result, most of the early missionaries were killed.
Same applies to the school system. They used it to preach against the doings of the then elderly people which led to children accusing their parents for worshiping idols.
Later, very few people were attending the castle schools.
It was only when they strategized and send people to Africa to conduct research on why Africans are difficult to be convinced into the said religion.
The results of the research was that, to persuade Africans into believing you, you must first admit their culture and add it to the curriculum. This gives birth to Ghanaian language and culture and the likes.
When Ghanaians realized their culture is being taught in schools they were glad and started pushing their kids into it.
So in the 18th century, Christianity gain its roots.
Inasmuch as Christianity is good for our salvation and that we need the Supreme God in our daily lives, using the wrong means did not yield results.
Egoism is the basis of morality and it has a brother known as Pride.
Due to these two, hardly will one accept you if you fail to work on their mindset first.
The law of Virginity may be of help to clarify my point.
The law of virginity states that to receive the seed of truth that will impregnate you, you must be broken.
In this context, it’s not the hymen that will be broken but your previous beliefs or preconceived ideas which doesn’t match with the new information.
Having sex with a virgin cannot be done the same way as the one who’s hymen has already been broken through sex because of the discomfort.
Besides, not all virgins feel pains with their first encounter with men. Some of them have already broken their hymen through sporting activities. So, what will work for one person might not work another. The person who’s hymen got broken by sporting activities and the one through sex will not experience the same pain. Contextually, I will add those who haven’t broken theirs yet.
1. The person who’s hymen got broken by sporting activities is the one who has once heard the exact information you want to pass to him/her. For instance, there are a lot of preachers in the 21st century and many different mediums to preach the gospel. One may have read that fornication is a sin or the LORD of Israel is the Supreme GOD so we must all worship him for life after death–heaven. In this way, being the second or third person to let him/her hears of this same information or a similar one can easily convince him to be born again.
2. The person who’s hymen got broken through sex and experience pains is the one who has never heard of the word before. So, trying to change his mindset at once may not yield results because he will equally feel pains in his heart. The worst part of all is when the conversation started in the form of argument.
3. Those who’s hymen are yet to be broken is similar to the second point above.
This principle applies to network marketing too. Getting a downline is not a one day job. Those who register the same day you approach them are those who already have knowledge about how the business works but we’re still having doubts.
There’s one general rule which applies to all persons. That’s to first acknowledge them for taking their time to learn about that subject matter. Let them know that you’re coming to add to what they’ve already learnt from a different perspective.
Start your explanation from known to unknown, or simple to complex. Thus, from what the person has already learned to what you want him to know.
Infuse the truth in the conversation gradually until your chat becomes 100% truth.
Apply the principles learnt and show me the results.
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