Some Nigerian men treat their wives as second in command as they expect their women to be there for them, answer when they call and they always want to make the final decision. They always want to… be the man. For a woman. not knowing how to cook is a serious crime in Nigeria.
Men in Nigeria believe that a woman is responsible if she is good with domestic works while the ones with very little knowledge and domestic know-how are considered irresponsible
A Nigerian boy is expected to leave his father’s house at most by the age of 30, fend for himself and build his own home. If he fails to do so, he would be regarded as an irresponsible man in his own community; Nigerian men are expected to be independent by thirty at most.
The man runs the home irrespective of ‘how much’ the wife is worth.
The Nigerian man is a natural hustler, they go out in the morning and come back in the evening, they don’t usually get fed up with wealth acquisition, that is the one thing American women seem to like so much about Nigerian men, – That they take responsibility and make sure their family as well as their woman is well taken care of.
One said “I love the way African men love their children it is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen, but I can see the boys are more spoiled, that is the truth.”
If you do a search on the internet about “Nigerian men” you would come across very few positive comments and loads of negative stuff about Men from Nigeria, like they are domineering, you hear things like “Nigerian guys are naturally dishonest!,” you will hear the good and you will also hear the bad things about men from western African. Well, I guess that comes with life.
But the main question is – Why Nigerian guys in Diaspore go home to marry the accredited innocent and yet un-spoiled girl back in their country instead of the white chick they have been with all year along??
The simple answer to that question is – because they don’t like an independent woman. African men believe that independent women and women with western upbringing are already spoiled and finds it very difficult to cope as tradition demands
Like going into the kitchen everyday to prepare his favorite recipe or give it to them the way they want it on bed. African men in general see the women as a helper who they have to love, pamper and dominate and they want her to remain thus, not another bread winner or some sort of competition.
Clubbing, excessive partying, alcohol is considered highly indecent for a Nigerian wife while the white woman considers them a sort of get-away.
The simple Nigerian girl is willing to submit and be a real wife to an African man, by so doing she enjoys unhindered love and lavish that she initially never bargained for. That’s why a man from Nigeria can fly several miles back home to bring her over, after of course several trial and errors with the white chicks.
A Nigerian women finds savorable love in humility, a quality that Nigerian men are yet to find in women with western upbringing.
Most of the negative things you hear about Nigerian/black men are from white/American women who tell stories of how they got their heart broken and how ruthless heartless they find Nigerian men. I am a Nigerian guy and I don’t care whether you are white, black or even pink once you have the qualities I want in a woman, I am off to the alter with you.
And that brings me to yet another tip about Men from Nigerian – They prefer church wedding to court marriage, in fact, only about 2 percent of all couples in Nigeria had court marriage, the rest follow the normal trend, – introduction, traditional and then church wedding no court nothing.
Dating Nigerian Men
Here is where it goes wrong most of the times… most white women never learn how to deal with Nigerian men in relationship, so they keep getting it wrong.
Dating a Nigerian guy, white women often find it difficult to cope, they think we are domineering and demanding. Well, that is because we were pretty spoilt back home, In Nigeria, we think the main responsibility of a man is to pay the bills, we can pay all the bill and even more but we don’t wash no dishes, we don’t change no diapers, we pay someone to do that if our wife is gainfully employed.
Women from the western world got “ego” and that is simply why Nigerian men don’t marry far away from home.
Most of the American/European women that are successfully dating Nigerian men either had to adjust or get him to shrink a little bit but that is not always easy, we rather turn the other way than get squeezed a little bit and that is the hard truth.
But frankly, you can date and marry a handsome Nigerian guy any day if you are willing and able to be a good wife.
Lastly, there is a whole lot to be said about Nigerian men and relationship, Nigerian is the world capital of the church, we all go to church and read bible. There are basic principles enshrined in the bible to govern marriages. We could all look it up sometimes. Read your bible and pray everyday also to be a good Nigerian man. #Shikena